The friendzone

I grew up with a lot of guys, so I have plenty of guy friends. I call them my brothers not my friends. Because for a guy and a a girl to be friends, well that’s just not that easy. I find my relationship with my bro’s easy. So I count myself as “one of the guys”. I like my girls, but I also think that guys are more easy going. Less drama, more fun, yep that’s what I like. But that less drama only counts when you’re just friends. And I guess that’s where it goes wrong.

My point is, the older you get the more people you meet, duh. But as a girl how can you decide if the guy just likes you as a friend or more? I mean, meeting someone in a club who’s buying you drinks and is calling you hot screams for “he wants more”. But you can also just have a nice co-worker, or a nice friend of a friend who you just hang out with?

So let’s say you meet a friend of a friend, you just chat a little bit on a birthday. You find out that you have the same interests, you both like action movies, asian food and hiphop music. You got some friends in common, you guys become facebook friends. You end up liking each-others pictures, which you could do if it was a fling, bro, friend, or ex. It’s hard to decide what that means. But than he sends you a private message, about this new movie coming out next week. Is he trying to ask you on a date, or does he just wanna hang out? Only one way to find out, so you guys end up going to the movie together. It’s a great movie, but you got a cinema pass, which you told him before, so even if he wanted to he couldn't pay for you. So the rule ‘if he pays it’s a date’ doesn't work. You didn't hold hands, or kissed in the cinema, but you never do that anyway. So again, what was this? The only way to find out is to keep on hanging out and just see where it goes. See where the flow brings you.

The danger in all of this is that you could end up just liking him as a friend or vice verse, because of course who doesn't fall in love with you? But if he’s in love with you, how are you going to continue the friendship? That’s gonna be hard, consider it a lost friendship.

I believe that a friendship is a good fundamental for a relationship. And no I don’t wanna date my ‘old friends’ but I would consider dating new friends. But it just sucks to ruin friendships, cause yes a friendship should just be a friendship.But hey you could also start a friendship with benefits, so you can stay there in that all mixed up got no clue on what the hell is going on situation!

Girls, good luck and have fun with your new friendships!

This song is soooo me!

I can totally relate to a lot of things. On one day I can listen to 20 songs and feel like I relate to at least 5 of them. Something about the past, something about the future, something about whatever. I guess I like the feeling of "aaaaah she feels the same way! She got cheated on as well yeaaah" or "omg she loves Vodka, so do I". 

So recently, and I dont know why I never heard about this girl before I foud out about "Lucy Spraggan". But hey better late than never! Cause this girl, hold on... She sings my mind!! With a few differences. Two of my favorite songs are the tourist and mountains. Probably cause they're a bit travel related ;-)

When I listen to the song mountains I feel like im on that mountain! "When an old lady comes and sits next to me

Says, "Next birthday I'll be 83

I fell in love with the world when I was 24

I've lived in Mexico, Columbia and Ecuador

Sat next to the Taj Mahal

While the sun was rising

Spent a year in Australia

Chasing the horizon

So take your guitar and do what you have to do."

She said, "I know what you're scared of.

I used to feel it too.

You're not scared of climbing mountains.

You're scared that you can't make them move.""

And here's a part of the tourist I just love:
"She said she hated tourists

But she wanted to travel the world.

Said the best things in life were free

And then worked all day to feed herself.

She said you never know what you got until it's gone

And she complained about the rain like she'd never seen the sun.

She said good things come to those who wait

And then she waited four hours for a cancelled train.

She said:

You try and catch me

I'll never stop running.

With a pound in my pocket and my life inside a bag.

You try and catch me

I know where I'm going

I'll be half way round the world before you even know I'm gone

She said I'm moving on." 

Just check out the album "join the club" and see if you can join the "omgggg this is so me-club". 

Five steps to put him in the friendzone

So you met this really fun guy, he´s goodlooking but not your type. But you do have a lot of fun and you don´t want that to stop. Lately he has been flirting with you because you’re hot and cute, well that happens. So what you need to do is put that guy in the friendzone. Five steps to get him there!

1. Tell him all about your ex. One of the rules of things you shouldn´t talk about when you´re into a guy is talking about your ex. Please tell this guy all about the mistakes your ex made, and since your friends, inform him about all you flaws. Don´t forget to tell him about the time that you cheated on your ex with his best friend, honesty about this subject is the key to a great friendship. And the key to a relationship without trust!

2. When you´re texting just say stuff like ´whats up dude´, never give him cozy names like ´babe´ or ´darling´. Funny things like ´monkey´ could be mistaken for flirting, so don´t go there either. Keep it in the friendzone.

3. There´s this cute guy at work, and you totally need advice from you new bff. So go ask for advice on how to handle the situation. Just don´t make it too obvious otherwise this move could be mistaken for ´making him jaelous´.

4. When you guys are hanging out show him texts ur getting from other guys, but again this could trigger him to hit on you more. So try to make it seem like u really happy with those texts. Just smile at your phone in the middle of a conversation, he’s gonna ask why are you smiling? Wait a bit and tell him “oh hihi nothing, *name cute guy* is just tasking me”. Put your shy face on while saying that.

5. Hook him up with a girl! Even better, hook him up with one of your girls. If he’s not picking up the other “go back to the friendzone signals” he will probably get it when ur hooking him up with ur bff. If not he’s a dumbass and you probably shouldn’t be friends with him anyway.

But before you put that cute-funny-guy-who-you-get-a-long-with-just-fine in te friendzone make sure that that’s what you wanna do. Friendships are a good base for a relationship, so you might wanna consider dating him anyway…  

I left my heart in many places

I´m blessed! I´m blessed for many reasons. One of those things is that I´ve had the opportunity to travel. It´s a privilege. Although I safed up the money myself, some people have other things in life they need to take care of, other than themselves. So yes, I feel lucky for having a chance to do my travel stuff.

While traveling I´ve been to amazing places. Some places were just absolute breathtaking beautiful. Some were maybe not the most beautiful, but became special because of the people I was with and the memories we created. Sometimes the food was just the best, or worst ever. Sometimes the vibe was just so chilled down. So yes, i´ve lost pieces of my heart in many places. 

I like to take you on a journey of a few of my favorite spots, this week i'll start with my first Asian crush. 



Boracay. Oh oh Boracay, I could write pages and pages about why I love Boracay so much. The Philippines was the first country I ever visited in South East Asia. I landed in Cebu City and catched a flight to paradise the next day. It took me five minutes to fall in love with Boracay. Beautiful white beaches, no dangerous traffic, live music everywhere, even better.. reggae music! A small chilled down island, with not to many resorts, some backpackers, cocktail bars, lounges, ´clubs´. 

The first night me and the girls got on Boracay we we´re sitting at BomBom bar. While I was enjoying my crocodile burger there was this amazing band playing. The night went on and the reggae music was surprising me. I was not expecting this at all. It simply blew my mind. And so did the rum. It ended up with some kind of chill session with the band. Sitting at this bar, which was actually on the beach, being surrounded by amazing (and talented) people. I couldn´t have wished for a better introduction to traveling South East Asia! The next few days were simply amazing. A few weeks later I went back to Boracay and it was still amazing. I can´t wait to go back there!

I stayed in a hostel named "frendz hostel' a basic place with shared huts, everything in the Philippines (well if ur on a budget) is really back to basic, but it's charming. The bar/lounge is realy social and this is the place that inspired me to go backpacking. I met a lot of backpackers there, some were alone some were not. I talked to a few people, some gave up their house and their job. Some just finished school, either way I was so amazed by all this cool stories about people traveling the world without cares. Could this be me?! I was with three girls from school, but this hostel was crazy social. So we ended up hanging out on the beach (frendz hostel has his own beach spot as well!) and going out with them as well. Borcacay is really small, and everybody ended up going to the same places anyway I think the names of the clubs were summerplace and epic (correct me if im wrong). The little clubs are filled with a mix of traveling people and locals, which is nice, I love a place with locals! The drinks are cheap as hell also. Oh and this is where I fell in love with San Miquel (light!) as well, guess it was the started of me getting used to beer.

Guess it's safe to say Boracay changed my life. I saw the beauty of Asia, met amazing people who inspired me (and i'm still in contact with a girl I met there, she's coming to the Netherlands in the summer, yaay!), found out how I love cheap drinks, my first tricicle ride. Yep, I love Boracay!